At 38 weeks pregnant, a friend of mine gave birth to a beautiful & perfect baby girl on June 25th.
What should have been a joyous occasion, was anything but.
That's because Baby M was stillborn.
My friend went to her regularly scheduled OB appointment on the 24th. I don't know all the specifics, but something prompted her doctor to do an ultrasound to check on the baby.
There was no heartbeat.
Baby M was no longer with us.
My friend was sent straight to the hospital to be induced to deliver her sweet baby girl that she & her husband had prayed for so hard & for so long.
She wasn't dilated at all & her labor lasted more than 12 hours.
Baby M came into the world surrounded by so much love, prayers, sadness & grief.
My heart's hurting so much for my friend & her husband. They had her little room set up & a closet full of little clothes for her to wear.
There was never any reason for them to believe she'd never sleep in her crib or wear her clothes.
It's just not fair.
And, I'll never understand why things like this happen.
Today, my friend posted this article on stillbirths on her blog.
Please read it.
And, I learned that 1 in every 160 pregnancies ends in stillbirth. And, stillbirths are not frequently talked about between doctors & patients.
You can read why in the article.
I'm curious to know your opinions about this.
I know what it's like to experience loss. Not of the magnitude of what my friend is going through, but enough to know a little bit about what she's feeling right now.
As soon as you find out there's a baby growing inside you, you fall totally & completely in love with that baby. To lose the baby at any stage in pregnancy is devastating.